The Effectiveness of Self-Compassion Training on Self-Discrepancy, Loneliness, and Post-Divorce Adjustment among Women

MSc, Department of Psychology, Varamin-Pishva Branch, Islamic Azad University, Varamin, Iran

Assistant Professor, Department of Psychology, Semnan Branch, Islamic Azad University, Semnan, Iran

Assistant Professor, Department of Psychology, Varamin-Pishva Branch, Islamic Azad University, Varamin, Iran


Background: The objective of the present study was to determine the effectiveness of self-compassion training on self-discrepancy, sense of loneliness, and adaptation after divorce among women.

Methods: The present quasi-experimental study was conducted with a pretest-posttest design and a control group. The statistical population consisted of all divorced women referring to counseling centers in district 2 of Tehran, Iran, between April and June 2019. From among them, 30 individuals were selected through convenience sampling method and randomly divided into experimental and control groups. Data were collected using the Fisher Divorce Adjustment Scale (Fisher, 1976), self-discrepancy questionnaire (Higgins, 1987), and Revised UCLA Loneliness Scale‎ (Russell, Peplau, & Cutrona, 1980) and analyzed using univariate analysis of variance ‎and multivariate analysis of covariance in SPSS software.

Results: The self-compassion-based therapy reduced self-discrepancy and feeling of loneliness, and improved post-divorce adaptation in the experimental group.

Conclusion: It can be concluded that self-compassion-based therapy is effective on self-discrepancy, feeling of loneliness, and adaptation after divorce in women.


  • Self-compassion
  • Self-discrepancy
  • Loneliness
  • Post-divorce adaptation
  • Women

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